7 Steps to Feel More in Control

April 04, 2022
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Life can be truly chaotic, some periods of our lives more so than others. We are always juggling so many aspects – career, health, family, friends, hobbies, self-care – that it’s understandable they can’t all be going to plan all the time.

When it feels like everything is going wrong, here are 7 steps to feel more in control:

1.     Accept what you don’t have control over

If you have a tendency towards trying to control everything, then the most important thing to realise is that being able to control everything is not possible. You don’t have control over your genetics or your immune system or your allergies. You can’t make your eczema or your acne go away, and you can’t change the fact that your skin is more sensitive or easily irritated that others’. You can’t make your family act in a certain way and you can’t make your co-workers do what you want in the way you want them to. You have minimal control over your environment. You can’t change that we’re in a pandemic and that may make travelling to see friends and family complicated, or that we need to wear masks when out and about and this may irritate your skin. Take a deep breath in and remember you don’t need to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.

2.     Identify what you do have control over

However, if you tend to feel like you have no control over anything, then you need to identify some steps you can take to improve the situation. You can’t change having to wear a mask, but you can make sure to wear a new mask every day or wash yours regularly. You can’t make your acne or eczema go away, but you can build a skincare routine to try and support your skin.  You can’t change your environment, but you can work on building a more positive outlook.

3.     Get organised

You may have heard this tip many times but sitting down and gaining an overview of the situation is more powerful than you’d think. Think of everything that is stressing or upsetting you and consider the different problem areas. Once you’ve separated them, consider each individual issue – what can you reasonably do about it? Brainstorm some ideas and try and reach a solution. Do so for each of the problems bothering you.

4.     Make a change in the direction you want

Once you’ve identified some changes you can make, think of ways to incorporate them. If you’re feeling frustrated with your skin and have decided to build a skincare routine, start with making sure to wash off your makeup every day. Try and make small changes that you can easily implement, rather than a lot of things at once that may feel overwhelming.